Autumn, It Feels Like Autumn

To continue where I left off...


Somewhere around mid to late September I get a text from Nate. I'm really not entirely shocked really. But around the same time, one of my friend's set me up with one of her guy friends who was in a fraternity. I needed a date to a date party and he ended up being my date. We can call him...Joseph. Now Joseph was a really nice guy. In fact (not to brag) he was loaded.   I've never really been the shallow type but I didn't mind at all that his family was doing quite well. He was decent looking (nothing like Chace Crawford or Robert Pattinson). The only thing was...he had a boring personality. And he put on the moves way to fast. 


I'm going to sound like a horrible, horrible person but... when I knew I was getting tired of him... I sort of started to use him for his money. I was broke! Being in college aint easy. Listen, it was seriously only for dinner and going out. But I felt bad after that and just stopped answering his texts. 


Okay! I feel like I'm almost up to speed with my current dating life. 


Nate. Oh Nate. Things went on and on texting back and forth etc. And then randomly, we decides we should Skype. I am seriously floored because he is so shy I never expected that to come out of him. Of course Christmas break comes around and again I don't get to see him. So then there's NYE.


I plan on going to a friends place for the night of NYE and Nate just happened to be in town. I knew he already had plans but I told him that he should just come to this party anyway. He said he wouldn't but whatever. I was bored by then. I'm on my way to my friend's place when I get a call from him begging me to go hang out with him before I head to my friend's place. I try and tell him that I can't. I'm already half way there and it was nearly 11:30. I kinda felt bad, but at the same time I was not going to give in and drive all the way back to see him for just a short while. Chances are, he had been drinking. 


With that behind us I decided I would give him another chance to hang out, the day before I was heading back to school. Well... lets just say that really didn't turn out the way it should have....


to be continued again.


Here's to another night in another city


-B

Autumn after a Summer in the City...and a Little Bit More

As soon as I get back from the city, I had only a short time till I had to get back to school. Unfortunately (sort of) I had to get back early for sorority rush. Going through rush is hell but being on the other side isn't that bad. Anyway, after not hearing from Rhys a few months in I gave up. Strangely enough, I didn't have that feeling of being sad. I guess it's because, well, Nate was still around.

I kept in touch with him but I met some new guys. One was a guy with a bad boy reputation, Jeff and the other who many people would call a "frat star" (Greek lingo for the quintessential Fraternity boy) , Jonathan Rhys Myers. Yes- that is the name of an actual Hollywood star, but I'm using his name for the purpose that the "frat star" goes by 3 names like Jonathan Rhys Myers.  To this day I have never called him just by his first name. I can't remember if anyone has either.

Both great guys. I had a small stint with Jeff, but it really didn't last long. Things with him just seemed... slow. Don't get me wrong, I really like to take it slow when I'm first dating a guy...but this was slower than a turtle. Up until recently I sort of kept in touch.

Now for JRM, I still talk to him. Everyone at school adores him. For most guys at this school who are a part of the arts were gay. No problem with that except that left for only a few straight guys. Girls pined over JRM! I never really ever went on a date with him but we would hang out at parties occasionally. 

After fall semester I decided to take the spring semester off. I really wasn't sure what I wanted to do with school or my life, so it helped just to clear my mind for a semester. No worries, I did go back to school the following fall. 

Over the summer I never got to see Nate. It was hard since he was barely in my city since he had moved elsewhere with his parents. We always talked about hanging out but it just never worked out. As school neared... I get a text from him saying we couldn't really "talk" anymore since he had a girlfriend. Listen I get it. Sort of. Nate and I were more friends than anything and to be honest, we really know just about everything about each other. But I have plenty of close guy friends from HS that I've kept up with who have girlfriends and they don't seem to mind. So lets just say we didn't really talk much until things ended with his girlfriend in October...

Oh, by the way, I would receive texts from him saying that he wanted me to get him a small gig where I went to uni. I said of course I would and then it happened. He asked where he could stay and naturally I said the couch. He retorted (and he still had a gf at this point) with "well, we could share a bed. friends share beds". I'm pretty sure I asked if he was still dating his gf and he said yes. If I can remember correctly, I didn't ever reply back. 

And of course out of nowhere, I get the most flirtatious text...and things have ended with him and the gf.

To be continued. 

Here's to a night in another city.

-B

There was Nate...and then the new guy

Well, starting off that summer I was in the city. Randomly out of nowhere a guy from high school that I just knew of, not personally, decided to talk to me on fb. Now he is absolutely gorgeous. He did some modeling back in the day, so I was sort of caught off guard that someone like him would talk to someone like me. Needless to say we hit it off quick. We had so much in common it was crazy. At that time I thought, now this is the one. Now I have never ever thought to get an MRS, but for him I certainly would. I still talked to Nate but all I cared about was the new guy Rhys. 


As soon as I got back from the city he asked me on a date. Everything was perfect. He is the description of a southern gentleman. Of course it came time for me to pack up and hit the road back to school while he was still going to be back at home. We kept up for a while when I was back at school but as the semester progressed we lost touch. Up until about two months ago I hadn't talked to him since then. He texted me that he had heard something that made me think of him so he thought it would be perfect to tell me about it. I was SO excited to see that he was getting back in touch with me. But, I soon found out he was married and had a kid. Well, that just ended everything right then and there. 


But that's okay. Because I still had Nate...


here's to a night in another city


-B

Nate: Part Deux

So, to pick up from last night, Nate started texting me just the day after things broke off with him and his girlfriend. Seriously. The next day. Shocked? Yes. Happy? Very. We talk and talk and keep up with each other all semester. Texting mid day, texting at night, you get the picture. We sort of talk about what exactly is going on with us. We are great friends. Close even! But we realize it's such a gray area. Neither of us can date because of distance but we don't want to lose what we have. It was a sort of spark I guess. 

Then we have it all planned. We would hang out as much as we could over the summer. The only bummer to this is that he didn't live in my city any more. His parents retired to another city, but it's not too terribly far away.

I should mention, he's a tad bit shy. I know, you wouldn't think so at all with all of the girlfriends he seems to have. He tells me he's playing guitar at [insert place] and that I should go. I show up and run into some people I went to high school with, but it was sort of awkward because I was never in their friend group. So there is he. On stage. Singing his little heart out. Okay he's really not perfect. He has that sort of old timey country sound but it could be refined. At any rate, it still makes my heart skip a beat. Afterwards, because he is shy, he decides to sit at a table just a few feet away, back towards me. Instead of talking to my face, we just text. Talk about awkward.  

It was getting late and things weren't panning out so I left. He didn't exactly realize that I had left and just after I had left he texts me and asks where I am. Alas, I was too far away to go back.

Things never really worked out that summer. I ended up going to the city for the summer to do some work so it left no time to see him. Of course, he kept in touch.

Just as I was giving up on Nate... a new guy shows up in the picture: Rhys.

more to come. eyes are getting heavy again. 

here's to a night in another city

-B

A New Day

To state the obvious, this is my first blog. It was late this night that I was watching Sex and the City and kept thinking that just like Carrie, I needed to write out my so-called dating life. Unfortunately for me, I am not in "the city". But boy, I do have just as many issues as Carrie did. I hope that like Carrie I can give some advice and help others that are going through the same things I am. 


So, first off. About me. I am anonymous. But, you can just call me Blair. To protect the innocent and well, sometimes guilty, I will not reveal the real names of people that are written in this blog. I live down in Dixie Land and I love it. Don't get me wrong, I am a city girl. My go to city is NYC. But, the South is just somthin' else. 


So, here's my first "issue":
I got to thinking here tonight that I need more men in my life. Not boys or guys, but men. I am what you would call a "fag hag". I am very much a part of the arts and well, I just seem to pick up many gay friends on the way. If any of you readers don't have a gay guy friend, go seek one. You need a Stanford or an Anthony. You won't regret it. Scouts honor!
I have this guy friend, who we'll call Nate, that I've kept in touch with since high school. (I'm post HS ). Yes, I have kept in touch for many years. We met my senior year of high school. We always knew of each other but we ran in different circles. I was in the arts, he was in the sports. The only reason we got to know each other is because of some community service that we did together. So from then on out we kept in touch. In high school I always had a little bit of a crush on him. He was the cute popular guy who played sports but also had that sensitive side since he was a singer. At some point in time and really I can't remember when, we exchanged numbers. And that was it. For me, everything seemed to be on overdrive. Sure, I dated in high school, but this was it. He was perfect. We both had the same morals, we had so much in common but, he just didn't want to date. I was crushed. No matter, we still kept in touch. Graduation came and we both went our ways. He stayed in state while I went far across to another state. Within the first semester he had a girlfriend. No shock to me because he knew how to flirt and use his cute southern charms. Fast forward to the next semester. He has broken up with this girlfriend and then all of the sudden, he's talking to me again.


that's all for tonight. my eyes can't stay open for much longer.


here's to a night in another city.


-B